Hummingbird
Bullies
By Dr. Ryan Donlan
Assistant Professor
Department of Educational
Leadership
Bayh College of Education
Indiana State University
I once met the Sweet Polly Purebread of American
education while on a school visit. As a
teacher, she was endearing, inspirational, and humble; she fawned over our
team.
We thought, “Wow
– This is what K-12 teaching COULD BE,” envisioning the amazing hiring decision
made in bringing her on board.
For those who have never seen the classic television cartoon
“Underdog,” Sweet Polly Purebread was the innocent and endearing “apple of the
eye” of our canine superhero.
As excited our
team was to see this teacher share her positive disposition with us, I was surprised
later that day to witness from afar her public upbraiding of a student, while
walking her class down the hallway. I
guessed that his excessive energy was not fashionable while visitors were in
the building – probably one of those situations where kids were admonished within
inches of their eyebrows prior to our arrival, and I wasn’t expected to be in
that end of the building.
Darn the luck.
Polly,
catching me in her peripheral vision, retorted immediately to a plastic smile and
what appeared from a distance to be positive reinforcement toward that same student,
much to his disbelief.
The look on his
face said, “What?!?!”
This Sweet Polly Purebread might have been a
hummingbird bully.
Hummingbirds
frequent our back deck.
My wife, Wendy
and I have two feeders, primarily because of the bullying. Bullying, you say? Yep.
Bullying.
All we want is
for these beautiful birds to drink from our feeders and of course, to get
along, yet despite our efforts at providing more space to eat, we now have twice
the bullying.
This is eerily
similar to what exists in K-12 education because our inabilities, at times, to discern
what’s really happening in our schools . . . to see the fangs behind the
facade.
Hummingbirds
appear to be beautiful creatures, hovering above flowers and feeders to extract
the nectar upon which they feed. They
are multi-colored, multi-shaped, and universally small and cute, so I never
realized until recently that they had another side to their disposition.
Hummingbirds can
be nasty with a capital N!
They can be
bullies with a capital B!
More now the rule
rather than the exception, these seemingly docile creatures wait for others to
visit the feeders. When one hovers for a
drink, another will fly at breakneck speed from a tree line 25 yards or more out,
to deliver a “drive-by,” a glancing blow, forcing the smaller bird from the
feeder and chasing him or her back to the trees, quite a distance away.
Sometimes,
hummingbird bullies even hover under the rails of the deck, lying in wait until
others try to feed, then delivering the sidewinding strike, sending them to
orbit once again.
I would have
never thought that hummingbirds could be bullies – too pretty, too small, too
docile, and too unassuming.
Then again, I
would never have thought that Sweet Polly
Purebread could act that way toward students, when nobody else was
watching.
Applied to our
positions as school leaders, I would have never thought that the sweet daughter
or the kind son of a soccer-playing, dinner-table-eating, church-going,
working-class or mid-to-upper-level socioeconomic family involved in the
National Honor Society, could be making the life miserable for any of our other
students.
I have found that
at times, I was so wrong.
Hummingbird
bullies are not what they appear.
They could be in
our advanced classes. They might be in
the locker room, plying their trade before the coach arrives. They might be at the bus stops when parents
aren’t around, or even in student clubs and organizations. They might be on staff.
It becomes
particularly tough to identify hummingbird bullying, as oftentimes, those who
we perceive as kind and sweet (because they say nice things to us as other
students walk by and ignore us) are operating in stealth, just around the next
corner.
Are hummingbird bullies
smarter than we?
I was reminded of
this in an episode of the television show Rookie
Blue a week or so ago, when a two-person prisoner transport was hampered by
the more docile and unassuming of two prisoners, one appearing innocent and
humble. She tried to stab another, much
to the surprise of the officers entrusted with everyone’s lives.
Who are our hummingbird
bullies?
More importantly,
what are we doing about them, and for them, as they came by their ways
through modeling, certainly overindulgence, as possibly even abuse and/or
neglect.
A first step
involves an identification of that which we cannot see.
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Dr.
Ryan Donlan specialized in identifying and intervening with Hummingbird
Bullies, and would love to spend a bit of time talking with you about
yours. Please feel free to contact him
at (812) 237-8624 or at ryan.donlan@indstate.edu.