Qurious Questions
By Dr. Ryan Donlan
Assistant Professor
Department of Educational Leadership
Bayh College of Education
Indiana State University
In the queue this week … my quriosity.
I’m qurious as to whether we spent the first
weeks of school focused more on “people” than on “content.”
Regarding our responsibilities as
educators -- I’m also qurious ...
1. Do
we NOT treat others how we want to be treated?
Let us put some thought into the fact
that the Golden Rule, or as some call it the ethic of reciprocity, can work
against us. Before we treat others the
way we, ourselves, wish to be treated, wouldn’t it be prudent for us to
consider the fact that others may wish to be treated differently? For example, how many times do we teach or
lead the way we like to be taught or led, and find that a few of our students
and colleagues do not connect with our approach? Cathcart & Klein (2008) noted, tongue and
check, “A sadist is a masochist who follows the Golden Rule” (p. 84).
2. Do
we focus too much on self-esteem?
Are we putting carts before horses with
good intentions? Let us consider a child’s self-esteem. Our media-influenced,
commercially socialized, me-centered society seems to build self-esteem in our
children so rampantly that kids are often blind to their own entitlement. It doesn’t take too many trips to the county
fair to see the results of everyone’s being a self-aggrandized, prince or
princess. Unfortunately, a cruel hoax is
in play, resulting in a sense of inflated specialness that travels with some
into adulthood, marital life, and reproduction.
We don’t have to be callous, indifferent,
or sans warmth to put the horse back
up front. In fact, we simply need to focus
more on self-efficacy, legitimate skill development, and authentic praise. Those who develop self-esteem from within
through effort, support, and accomplishment, rather than those who are filled
from without, are adaptive (as opposed to maladaptive), realistic (as opposed
to unrealistic), and self-ful (as opposed to selfish). An educator’s care and
feeding of anything prefixed with “self-” directly and indirectly affects the
levels of openness, persistence, and resourcefulness that visit school each and
every day (and travel into life beyond).
3. DO
we reveal our insides when we’re on
the outside?
A few things typically serve as windows
to our souls – The way we communicate and exchange currency in a gas station/convenience
store, saying, “Hi, how are you doing?
May I please have …”? rather than “I need …” is one example. Placing
our money on the counter, rather than handing it to the clerk, is another.
How many of us leave our grocery carts by
our cars, when it’s raining or inconvenient, rather than taking them back to
the cart corral, or leave them in an aisle when the wheels aren’t working?
As we answer these for ourselves, is
whatever we are doing happening because people could be watching, or are we truly
“on the outside,” the real us?
4. Do
we “have a clue”?
How often at staff or leadership team
meetings do we discuss how others perceive our performance, or how students and
parents perceive us? How often do we
open up that quadrant of Johari’s window that others see, yet we do not, so
that we can see ourselves from another’s perspective?
I would like to tip my hat to educators
in school buildings who engage in these critical conversations in an atmosphere
of trust and a culture of authenticity. In
our professional world as in Irish Proverbs, The best looking glass is the eye of a friend.
5. Do
we turn our minds?
By our very nature as educators, we have power of mind. We’re intelligent, good school-doer’s. But have we turn-of-mind?
Remember long ago when we learned reading
comprehension strategies – some messages in the readings were delivered “on the
line,” … others … “between the lines” or “beyond the lines.”
Well, turn-of-mind
learning is like reading between and
beyond the lines of life to discern the deeper truths that we confront. Turning
our minds sets us apart. And, we need to
be apart to solve the issues that
confront our society today. We have some big issues to solve in (and through)
education.
Turn-of-mind is often a sojourn obscured from
immediate relevance, yet has potential for deferred, positive impact and one’s self-actualization. It gives us permission to question why we do
some of the things we do as educators (our modus operandi): Like
reading and regurgitating … like learning about this guru or that guru’s this, that, or the other thing
(typically repackaged, in another form of the prior) … like regaling about yet
another charlatan’s charisma from the conference attended (and buying his or
her book, believing it’s research) … like hiring someone from at least 100
miles away (and thus, an expert) … like jumping on the next bandwagon of
pedagogy borne of politics and pundits … like …?
Why do we often do what we know and pass
along what was done to us, when we have an ability to turn our minds, asking qurious
questions that cut through the chatter of any profession’s distraction?
References
Cathcart, T., & Klein, D. (2008). Plato and a platypus walk into a bar …,
New York, NY: Penguin Books.
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Dr.
Ryan Donlan offers THANKS to the ISU Ph.D. Program Residency Silver Anniversary
Cohort for offering him thoughts and feedback on this week’s contribution to
the Leadershop. He teaches at Indiana
State University, in the Department of Educational Leadership in the Bayh
College of Education. Please offer him
your own barometric reading on the quality of quriosity, by contacting him at
(812) 237-8624 or at ryan.donlan@indstate.edu.